Child rearing

 

How do you raise children

 

And consolidating faith in the heart of the son by teaching him the word of monotheism (there is no god but God) and its requirements and meanings, and endearing the child to God Almighty by mentioning his attributes and attributes. Blessings on humans. The Almighty - is aware of Him at all times and times, and he has to watch God - the Most High - in his actions and words

 

Worship

The Muslim educator begins to accustom the child to worship from an early age, and the child develops a love of obedience and hatred for evil when he is young and grows with him. The Messenger, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, urged parents to order their children to worship and to slowly accustom them to it in the honorable hadith. He said: Tell your children to pray when they are seven years old and beat them for it when they are ten years old, and separate them in their families

It also includes encouraging children to fast, training them for it for short periods, and leading the prayer with their peers

 

Raising the son in terms of devotion: first, teaching him the five pillars of Islam, then teaching him how to perform ablution and prayer, urging him to do that, loving him, and entering the mosque

on morals

The upbringing of good morals in the heart of a son is with love and away from cruelty and violence, and a sense of security on the part of the parents, and then by example

 

Teaching children good behavior by example; The father is keen to bring peace to his children, hide in front of them, be kind to neighbors, be kind to parents, obey, and other good behaviors

Pay attention to its general construction

The construction includes many aspects, which will be explained below

 

attention to the physical construction of the child; Children need to play and have fun, and this can be combined with sports to strengthen their bodies, by providing enough time to play, teaching the child swimming, running and some physical games, and feeding him a healthy and balanced die

attention to the psychological construction of the child; By listening to the child, making time to talk and discuss with him, avoiding constant threats and intimidation, respecting the son, and thanking him when he does well

attention to the social construction of the child; By making the child interact with the children around him, and registering him in summer centers and Quran memorization sessions. The child can also be given a certain responsibility; Distinguished guest and doing hospitality

concern for the healthy construction of the child; This is by taking care of their food and healthy food, promoting them with the legal ruqyah, and making them accustomed to sleeping and waking up early

 interest in the cultural construction of children; This is done by accustoming children to reading, encouraging them to read, solving puzzles and intellectual games, reading with them, and training them in speaking and public speaking

 

 

Indirect education of the child

 

 The other aspect of upbringing is the indirect aspect with children, as follows

 

 Pray for them to be in good shape and guidance before and after they are born

Choosing a good name for the son and teaching him the meaning of his name

Justice between children in treatment, in order to keep them away from hatred and envy

Treat them with kindness, kindness and mercy, and there is no harm in being cruel at times except without cruelty and rudeness

The father directs his son in the right direction and keeps him away from error, advises and teaches him, and is keen to choose the right companionship for his children and keep them away from bad companionship

Always follow the method of reward, and sometimes punishment, and diversify the method of punishment without hitting, but with reprimand, angry look, and revenge

 

It doesn't cost a child what it can't afford

 

One of the most important methods of education that the educator must take into account is not to burden the child or young man with what he cannot do, because this has a negative impact on his behavior

 

and when the educator determines what the children can do; It is better for the educator to leave them the freedom to act and make decisions, and this is a reason for strengthening the independence of the child and his feeling that there is someone who depends on him and trusts him, and the educator does not do that. He gets angry if he hears the word “no” from his son; This is evidence that the boy does not obey the blind, rather he shows what he loves and what he hates.

 

The tendencies that parents should take care of to raise their children are branching off, and these trends are; Raising children on belief, worship and good morals, and taking care of the child’s psychological, physical and health development

 

How to raise girls in Islam

The upbringing of the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, for his daughters was full of mercy, tenderness and kindness. And he - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - is a role model for all fathers in this. He, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, used to rejoice and rejoice at the birth of a daughter. Among the duties of parents towards their daughters are the following

Provide for their physical and psychological needs

 - Teaching them the principles of Islam, the Arabic language, the Noble Qur’an, decency and modesty

  Teach them the rights of God Almighty over them, the rights of the Noble Messenger - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - and good morals, and the ability to work

 The girl is accustomed to wearing the Islamic veil

 Preparing her to be a good and caring mother, and a pious wife, and gradually training her to wear the veil before she reaches menstruation, getting her used to it, praising her when she wears it, and keeping her away from men’s gatherings

Islam is obligatory on girls and treats them well in education, including: Teaching them the principles of Islam, accustoming them to Islamic dress, and choosing righteous husbands for them

 

How to raise teenagers in Islam

 

Raising teens on faith comes in many ways and ideas, including the following

 

Spontaneity and simplicity in guiding and directing young people in indirect ways

Combining emotional and rational discourse, appealing to young people with love and appreciation; Young people are characterized by open minds, lively and energetic, and love to discuss and debate with them

Begin educating the adolescent and introducing him to the stage of puberty and the accompanying variables so that he is ready for it. Training the young man to think, look and meditate

Directing the young man to resort to God - the Most High - in cases of pain and adversity, where his psyche at that stage is weak and fragile, and he needs someone to support and guide him

 Integration of the theoretical and practical aspects of education, by teaching the teenager the basics in theory, and making him apply them on the ground

 Renew and diversify the methods of education used, so that the young man does not feel bored, and the meanings reach him smoothly

 

Islam has taken care of young people, educating them and preparing them in a manner that qualifies them to accept this stage and overcome it. Including: that the educator mixes emotional and rational discourse in his dealings with them, and pushes them to return to God Almighty, and to renew and diversify the methods of education so that the young man does not get bored

 

 

Tips for the educator to help him raise his children to seize the innate instincts that God has implanted in the child

 

 

Exploiting the innate instincts that God - the Most High - implanted in the child, including satisfying the child's love for independence, experimentation and courage, including playing; It has several forms and means, including group play, mental games, individual games or a combination of them, including igniting the love of competition, by involving children in group games, taking into account the values ​​and age differences. socially, and takes advantage of this point by making the child engage in social activities; Such as collective eating, visits, group prayer, and so on

 

Check out the good environment in which children mingle

 

Whether at home, on the street or at school, it is best to place children in environments that glorify the Islamic religion and rituals, instill in them the values ​​of decency and humility, and choose a group of companions to accompany them. child to safe educational and religious areas; It is a blessing to him in obedience, and if there is a companion whom the breeder does not comfort him, he does not antagonize him, but rather he tries to show the boy that the behavior of his companion is bad and it must be so. Stay away from him

 

Keep children away from digital screens as much as possible

 

keep children as far away from useless digital screens as possible, and find suitable and entertaining alternatives; Such as swimming pools, scout camps and amusement parks. One way to reduce children sitting in front of the phone, TV or computer is for the teacher to organize this time; It is limited and unopened, and these means can be used to strengthen certain aspects of children; Such as discovery, learning, memorization, etc

 

It is recommended that the breeder follow a number of methods that help him to raise his children well; Such as taking advantage of the child's natural instincts and working on investing them, and searching for a suitable environment for his son at home, school and the street, and keeping him away from digital screens as much as possible